With May came a part of my anxiety disorder I never knew existed. Before now, I hadn’t been able to imagine the ways my mind and body could turn against each other. How neither would refuse to work with the other, chasing their gratifications in vastly divergent ways, demanding unhealthy attention, and stretching out the…
1.This is really important, which of course is why it is the first thing up here, as it rules every thought, ideology, perception and action that homophobes and prospective ones live by when it comes to us LGBTQ persons. Which is to have absolutely no/ridiculously minimal knowledge of what it means for people to exist…
Simply because it isn’t. While this might suffice as explanation enough, I do think it is important to talk about this a bit more. This mentality, although not statistically proven, through extensive personal experiences and objective observations, is sadly what the average Nigerian gay man believes. While sex is crucial to humans who are down…
I have read and heard the news. Nice headline, very well schemed story, it is most definitely a honey pot, tonnes of homophobes (and co) will be sure to swarm around in a snap. Well done (?) It is not news what you and a depressingly large number of the Nigerian media do as regards…
I believe there is power in conversation, sharing thoughts in their hardest, and most honest forms help to shape, change, and inspire. For the Nigerian LGBT community there is the utmost need for conversations between and within us. Introspection is crucial to changing the flawed narrative we have been constantly written into. This is why…
In the article I didn’t write I was going to talk about our ever dynamic LGBT community, and its cliquey nature. The ways that it can segregate, divide, withhold, complicate, implicate, and exist in various elitist, sometimes sectarian, and mostly inaccessible holds. In the beginning of the article, I was going to draw from Alexander…
I know you most definitely have heard this a billion times, you probably feel it in the tender structure of your guts, or are just at that crossroads (tough I know, necessary too) between societal ‘logic’ and the irrepressible come-to of your person. It is important that we remind ourselves, over, and over again, that…
So, I saw your tweets as regards the inevitability of LGBT persons getting married due to either family pressure or a sense of frustration (I am not sure that is what you said exactly, but it leaned towards that). Quite typical of the looming ideology of most average Nigerian gay persons, I must say. But…
The last time we meet, he gives me his shirt to mend for him as an alibi, asks me to not to make too much noise (as usual) when we go to wash up in the bathroom, and keeps a straight face when he walks me out the gate. This isn’t news, it happens to…
*Found myself in the most organic way possible, like I playfully kissed a boy at a birthday party in his house, and everyone clapped, cheered, and basically found it adorably funny. *Grew up with that memory, not as a chanced mystery never to be forgotten, but a medley of the unperturbed budding of my soul….
When asked, I usually just say I broke up with my American boyfriend who I was in a cyber space affair with, because it felt at the time like the most necessary thing to have done, as I had begun to remind myself, too many times, that I was supposed to be in love with…
One of the most imperative perks of being a writer is that, ultimately- after existing and preexisting in our respectively curated worlds- one is still a human being. And so, if not natural in this creative sphere, is prone to a subconsciously unending process of self – assessment, because one thing is certain; we are…
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