In observance of Transgender Awareness Week, The Rustin Times engaged in conversations with transgender individuals, asking for insights they wished they had at the beginning of their transition and things they’ve learned on their journey. We’ve compiled some of the responses we received.
“I wish someone had told me that taking testosterone is not a sufficient contraceptive method. For trans men or transmasculine individuals who haven’t undergone a hysterectomy and engage in vaginal sex, it is essential to use protective measures to prevent unintended pregnancies, regardless of being on testosterone.” – Ayo, 27, Abuja, Nigeria
“For me, transitioning has been a bumpy ride, but it’s a journey I’ll take over and over again. A few things I’ve learned since I started transitioning: Firstly, the notion of a “completely flat” chest is elusive. Before acquiring a binder, I fantasised about achieving a flat chest, but the reality fell short of my imagination, intensifying my dysphoria for a period. Secondly, the euphoria of transitioning often comes with unexpected familial challenges. When I started my social transition, adopting a gender-neutral name and using a binder triggered strong negative reactions from my family. Family gatherings, once a source of connection, began to feel more like a conversion camp than a supportive community. I also discovered there is a lot of transphobia within the queer community, and it is really difficult to find safe spaces as a trans person. However, there is a peace that comes with finally living as yourself. Social transitioning gave me a massive confidence boost and “cured” at least thirty percent of my social anxiety. Finally, starting any form of transitioning is scary as hell, but you get to meet a community of people who share your experience and gain a support system composed entirely of people who understand you.” – Yinka, 23, Lagos, Nigeria
“Before embarking on my transition, I dedicated time to thorough research to ensure I had all the necessary information. However, looking back, I wish I had known about other trans individuals who had begun their journeys before me. Connecting with these experienced “older siblings” could have eased my path and lessened the initial sense of isolation. To the younger trans community in Nigeria considering their transitions, take it at your own pace. There’s no rush, and the timing is personal. There is nothing like starting too late or too early, remember that there’s no fixed formula for coming out or transitioning. Many trans individuals with similar stories are out there, cheering for you and ready to support you on your journey to self-discovery.” – Fola, 29, Lagos Nigeria.
“Discovering that my identity as a trans person is deeply personal and that our experiences as trans individuals vary widely has been truly liberating. Being trans isn’t a binary concept – there’s no requirement to transition from one binary gender to another. Personally, I identify as a nonbinary trans masculine person, and it’s important to acknowledge that my transness is valid even though I’m not a trans man. For me, being trans is an empowering journey where I can create and express my agency. So when faced with comments suggesting I’m playing god by transitioning from my assumed gender, I say I am god. I believe in my ability to shape my own identity, understanding the profound spiritual experience of confronting, learning, and asserting who I truly am.” – Alex, 27, Lagos Nigeria.
