Nele's Thoughts

Dear Royals, This is Why You Cannot Afford To Still Consider Being Gay a “Game”.

Simply because it isn’t. While this might suffice as explanation enough, I do think it is important to talk about this a bit more. This mentality, although not statistically proven, through extensive personal experiences and objective observations, is sadly what the average Nigerian gay man believes. While sex is crucial to humans who are down… Read More Dear Royals, This is Why You Cannot Afford To Still Consider Being Gay a “Game”.

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Let’s Talk About Joy

I know you most definitely have heard this a billion times, you probably feel it in the tender structure of your guts, or are just at that crossroads (tough I know, necessary too) between societal ‘logic’ and the irrepressible come-to of your person. It is important that we remind ourselves, over, and over again, that… Read More Let’s Talk About Joy

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Dear You Who Still Thinks Heterosexual Marriage Is Forced And Inevitable

So, I saw your tweets as regards the inevitability of LGBT persons getting married due to either family pressure or a sense of frustration (I am not sure that is what you said exactly, but it leaned towards that). Quite typical of the looming ideology of most average Nigerian gay persons, I must say. But… Read More Dear You Who Still Thinks Heterosexual Marriage Is Forced And Inevitable

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Eighteen Things I Did Before I Turned Eighteen: An Alternative Spin To Growing Up Gay In Nigeria

*Found myself in the most organic way possible, like I playfully kissed a boy at a birthday party in his house, and everyone clapped, cheered, and basically found it adorably funny. *Grew up with that memory, not as a chanced mystery never to be forgotten, but a medley of the unperturbed budding of my soul.… Read More Eighteen Things I Did Before I Turned Eighteen: An Alternative Spin To Growing Up Gay In Nigeria